|Both of us want to
choose our own vows and readings.
Do you allow that?
Absolutely! Its your wedding ceremony, you tell me
what you want! Choose your own vows, readings/poetry, prayers, blessings, music, etc.
We dont want to be married in a church building. Is that okay?
Yes! Any dignified location is fine. Ive done weddings in mansions, hotels,
backyards, yachts, event centers, bed & breakfasts, Fort Snelling Memorial Chapel,
etc. But there is one location
I will refuse: skydiving - Im afraid of heights!
Im a divorced Roman Catholic. Do I need an annulment?
Unlike the Roman Church, Old Catholic Churches do not require an annulment for
remarriage. In that respect, we are like the Orthodox Churches, who likewise do not
require an annulment from a previous marriage.
Will the Roman Catholic Church "recognize" a wedding performed
No. The Roman Catholic Church will not "recognize" wedding performed by
anyone other than a Roman Catholic bishop, priest or deacon; not even by a
former Roman Catholic priest as myself. However, anytime after I performed
a wedding the couple may go to their Roman Catholic priest and request a
"validation" - provided neither party has been divorced from a previous
marriage (which will require an annulment.) With a "validation" the Roman
Church will recognize a marriage.
Do you perform non-Catholic Weddings?
Absolutely! I offer inter-denominational,
non-denominational and interfaith weddings also, regardless of religious affiliation. What
matters to me is the love you have to offer one another
and the willingness to have a new beginning in your life.
We want to meet you and talk about our ceremony.
Will there be a fee for that?
No charge for initial meeting.
I suggest the three of us meet in a restaurant like Perkins or a coffee place to chat and
see if it's a "good fit." I usually meet couples at my local Caribou Coffee
place, 2340 West 7th Street (at St. Paul Avenue), 55116 (Click
here for map). If we all feel good about one another, I will ask for a deposit to
"chisel" your wedding date in my calendar. The deposit is not
refundable. I will also ask for all of us to sign an Agreement, so we all know who is responsible for
what details of the wedding (i.e. music, location, marriage license, etc.). One copy
will be for me, the other copy for you. You may also mail the agreement and deposit
to me if you both need time to think about it. I will show you a sample wedding ceremony
book I can print and hand bind for you. I will loan you a copy of an excellent
wedding planning book, "Weddings From the Heart" to help you note your
selections, as well as posting your own unique electronic form on the internet to send me
your ceremony selections. You may also use material not found in that book
When you use the e-form, I will e-mail back to you the selections you have chosen for
proofreading and corrections.
Do you require pre-marital counseling?
No, I do not require pre-marital counseling. I offer optional
pre-marriage classes, which will qualify you for a discount off your wedding license when
you apply at a Minnesota county office. Check my pre-marriage
What are your fees and why are they so high?
I ask for an honorarium of $450 for a weekend wedding and
$250 for a weekday wedding.
A weekday wedding is a simple ceremony without a rehearsal, but rather a quick "walk
through" prior to the ceremony.
My fee is purchasing my time; the sacrament is free. I don't have a parish nor do I
receive a stipend from the Roman Church (of which I am not affiliated), so my fee is my
livelihood. Unfortunately my mortgage company does not accept prayers in place of monetary
nor can I fill my car gas tank with holy water. (lol)
I'm sure you can find an officiant who is cheaper. He or she will function well and look
necessary legal paperwork and even show up to perform the wedding (every year I get phone
calls from desparate grooms asking if I could do their wedding NOW!
because their officiant never showed up!). I perform FUN!
weddings, MEMORABLE weddings! Many of my couples tell me
in a follow-up e-mail that their guests said they never been to such a
FUN wedding before!
Holiday weddings (Memorial Day, Labor Day, July 4th, New Year's Eve, Veteran's Day,
and President's Day) are $500. No weddings on Christmas Eve/Day or Thanksgiving Day.
If your wedding ceremony is outside the metropolitan area, I ask for mileage
re-embursement in addition to the honorarium. If your wedding/rehearsal location is
outside the Twin Cities metro area, I ask for mileage both ways and if the
wedding/rehearsal location is more than 45 minutes from my home, traveling time at $50 per
hour both ways in addition to mileage.
If we decide to go with you, what will be the next step?
After I have received a deposit either at our meeting or by mail, I will post the
e-form on the Internet for you to choose selections for your ceremony (mostly checking
boxes, unless you have special material, which you type into a template) and I will mail
you a loaner copy of "Weddings from the Heart".
When you use the e-form, I will e-mail back to you the selections you have chosen for
proofreading. You may add other selections as time progresses and make corrections. Again,
I will e-mail back your additions and corrections for further proofreading. We may go back
and forth like this as many times as necessary to make your ceremony text exactly
the way you want it.
No "surprises" on your weddings day! (Except for my humor!).
At rehearsal I will ask for the balance of my honorarium, the wedding license/marriage
certificate, the loaned planning book, and payment for your personalized wedding ceremony
book if you have ordered one.
(On your wedding day, there will be 1,001 small details to take care of at the
last minute; the honorarium, the license and the loaned book will be three less details!)
Can you tell me more about the Wedding Ceremony Book you
offer as an option?
After the final proofreading of your wedding ceremony, I will do one of
two things. If you have selected a wedding ceremony book on
the e-form or paper planning sheet, I will print your ceremony book and bind it in a rich
velour book material of your choice. If you do not want to have your own bound wedding
ceremony book, I will use the text you have selected in an "all purpose" ritual
book at the ceremony. The wedding ceremony book will be a lovely memento of your wedding.
I will use it at your ceremony and you will keep it as a treasured reminder of your
special day. The book is covered with French imported velour (velvet) book material and
the pages are heavy classic linen paper with traditional glassine paper inserted facing
the rich burgundy colored velour endpapers.
What about the rehearsal and wedding day?
I feel so strongly about a rehearsal that if you have a weekend wedding, the
included in my honorarium. At the rehearsal I will have your wedding ceremony book,
if you ordered one. Also at rehearsal, I will ask for your wedding license and loaned book
(unless you have given them to me already), so that no one "forgets" on the
wedding day. (Unfortunately I had to hold up a wedding once for the best man to get the
wedding license at home!)
Whether you have a weekend or weekday wedding, I will arrive at your wedding about an hour
before the ceremony to inquire of any last minute details, to help insure that other
details are attended to (such as the wedding rings and the microphone, if there is one),
to meet other members of you family and friends, and to be a "grounding
presence" for both of you.
Dear Fr. Steve,
Thank you so much for the wonderful job you did with our wedding ceremony.
You made it fun, kept it SHORT! (haha, our guests loved that) and everything we wanted,
just like you promised. It was great.
We wish you all the best in 2010 and if/when our friends are ready to tie the
knot, rest assured you will be rcommended by us! Take care,
Tyler and Andrea
Thank you again for the wonderful wedding ceremony you performed for us
last August. We received so many compliments that "Father Steve was
fabulous!" We were so lucky to have you officiate on our wedding day.
Have a wonderful Christmas and Happy New Year 2009. Love, Melissa and Joe.
Thank you for making our wedding day so intimate and
personable for us. Our ceremony was so beautiful. If I hear of any upcoming marriages, I
will recommend your services without hesitation. So many of our guests told us it was the
nicest ceremony they have ever been to. Kim and Phil
Father Steve allowed my husband and I to write our own vows
and be as flexible with our ceremony as we would like. He also is very modern, with a tool
to create what you would like in your wedding ceremony online. He also offers a service
where he can create a book of your ceremony for you, that he reads out of the day of the
wedding, that you get to keep as a awesome memorabilia from the big day. He was very
funny, and actually kept the crowd interested in the ceremony. I have never seen anything like it. It was so fun.
Laura, 2007. (Review from weddingwire.com)
We are so happy you were able to officiate our wedding. Having you
there made the day so special and fun. We can't tell you how many
comments we got from our wedding party and guests about how great of
job you did and how much they enjoyed having you as a part of the
day. We felt so honored that you stayed for dinner and said the
blessing before the meal - we truly appreciate it.
Thank you for being willing to work with us through our multiple
rounds of revisions for the ceremony script and for helping us
figure out the logistics for the rituals and readings during the
rehearsal. We are so happy that we were able to receive a bound
booklet of the ceremony and we will treasure it for years to come.
We really hit the jackpot when we found you and will be recommending
you to all of our friends who are or will be getting married and
need an officiant or to take marriage classes. We would be happy to
write a review for your website if you would like, just let us know.
Thanks again from the bottom of our hearts, Ryan and MaryEllen, 2016
Thank you so much for presiding at our wedding ceremony. It
was so nice and we had many, many compliments on it. We were so happy to find you, Fr.
Steve, because we wanted our ceremony to be more than standing before a JP - we wanted a
spiritual ceremony, but we were not willing to pursue annulments. You and the Old Catholic
Church helped us fulfill that wish. Thank you very much! Dan and Lori
We wish to thank you for officiating our wedding this past
September 13th, 2003. Words cannot express how blessed we felt to find you. During the
planning process, we had researched many other wedding officiants in the Minneapolis/St.
Paul area. I was raised Methodist and my husband was raised Catholic. We needed to find
someone who would fit both our needs. With your Catholic background, you were indeed a
perfect fit. No one else made us feel as comfortable and welcome as you did. Many of our
guests were strong Catholics and had never been to a "blended" wedding before. I
think they were skeptical and curious to see what it would be like. I cannot tell you how
many compliments we received on the service. Everyone thought it was so unique and
personable. It was like we knew you for years. The homily and blessings you gave were
beautiful and so poetic. They felt as if they were written just for us. We greatly
appreciated the times you met with us to discuss our future lives together. The counseling
was helpful and nonjudgmental. We felt it was a good opportunity to discuss our
relationship and focus on our strong points, as well as short comings. It also allowed us
to discuss the logistics of the actual ceremony. Having never been married before, we
needed guidance on how things should flow. Your suggestions were well thought out and
worked well for us. We especially enjoyed the hand-bound wedding
ceremony book you made us as a keepsake. Such a thoughtful gift! It will definitely be
something we treasure for years to come. When we're old and grey, we will look through the
pages and reflect on the perfect day you helped create. We would highly recommend your
wedding services to anyone looking for a courteous and professional wedding officiant.
Warm Regards, Tracee and Ken
"...and another thing - if I hear you made Meagan cry, you'll have ME to deal
Father Steve made our wedding
day so special. He makes planning vows so easy and fun with his guided
online form and open-minded attitude. He greets guests before the ceremony
and sets an atmosphere of joy and love. During the ceremony he captivated
the crowd and used the perfect mix of seriousness and also interjected humor
and happiness. We could feel his love and support and genuine joy for our
family and we loved having him be such a special part of our day. I highly
recommend Father Steve and we're so grateful to him.
Fr. Steve was absolutely wonderful. He was one of my favorite parts of my
whole wedding. We were having issues finding a SLIGHTLY religious, but very
liberal officiant for our wedding. My husband comes from a very strict Roman
Catholic family, where I come from is a very liberal, easy-going,
Lutheran-based family. We don't go to church (except for my grandparents),
and though I've been instilled with religious VALUES, we I was never
pressured in any way regarding my decisions about my own faith. I was given
the opportunity to make my own choices in what I believed. We wanted to
honor my husband's family (considering, we already were having an outdoor
wedding which is totally out of the norm for them!) without being overly
religious and not representing ourselves. Father Steve was a former Roman
Catholic Priest, and is now a minister for The Old Roman Catholic Church,
which apparently is very different from the normal Roman Catholic Church.
When we first met him, I was ecstatic. He represented the religious part
that we were looking for, but he was also this adorable little old man with
an AMAZING sense of humor. He allowed us to choose our own ceremony by
giving us a book of suggestions. We had absolute freedom in exactly what we
wanted our wedding to be like.
He had great options, like doing a sand
ceremony rather than a unity candle. I loved that because, not only did we
not have to worry about a breeze being that it was an outdoor wedding, it
also was another unique part of the event. We also had our guest renew their
vows after we made our own. That was so awesome to watch all the people we
love looking into the eyes of their spouse (and even some of the couples
that were only engaged at the time) and vowing once again to love them for
It meant so much to both Charles and I to have a say in our
wedding. And Father Steve brought personality like you wouldn't believe. He
giggled with the guests when we got to part of our vows that said, "to play
with you as much as I can until we grow old"... During one part of the
ceremony, he was talking about how marriage was like a circus trapeze act.
"The bride and groom love and trust each other so much that they're willing
to take that giant leap and flyyyyy through the air". Just as he said that,
a plane flew overhead and the guests all started chuckling. Father Steve
looked at the sky, and said, "Thanks for the visual, God..." Later when
someone asked how much he paid for that to happen at the perfect time, he
responded... "That was all God's work!"
He kept it light, fun, but also
infused religion in when needed. He honored our families by leading a prayer
before dinner, and yet he made sure that everyone was having a great time,
and kept everyone smiling.
I adore Father Steve and he comes sooooooo
highly recommended by my husband and I!
Oh! And also, he does book
binding, so for a very minimal cost, instead of using a notebook to read our
ceremony from, he printed and bound everything in a beautiful suede book,
personalized with our names and everything. It was something so extra
special and beautiful and it's nice to read through that now - It really
brings you back to that afternoon, and that is so very much appreciated!
-Mandi from weddingwire.com